Our family just returned from a 10-day vacation at a beautiful beach in Long Island. It is one of my favorite places in the world; when I sit on that beach I literally feel my worries melting away, as a blanket of calm comes over me. But I have a confession to make: I could not wait to come home.
I am admittedly confused by my apparent inability to truly relax and enjoy some down time. During normal day-to-day life, my to-do list stretches for miles, and I need to carefully schedule each day in order to meet all my responsibilities. I frequently become frustrated and complain to my husband and girlfriends about the crazy pace of life. As a mother of 4 and a business owner, the sheer weight of my commitments can sometimes feel overwhelming.
So a vacation should be a welcome respite, right? Sure, for a little while. But getting out of our daily routines is not all it’s cracked up to be. After all, we create our routines because they help make our lives easier. Without our daily routines, I become completely inefficient. My kids barely got a decent meal the whole week, the house was messy, and I ended up at the grocery store EVERY DAY because I could not get my act together to plan in advance. I actually suffered the indignity of being told by my 9-year-old that it’s really best to buy food for the whole week when you go to the store, not just for one day.
It is really embarrassing to admit I am so dependent on my daily scheduling and meal planning to make things run smoothly. Especially since I like to think of myself as a mellow, freewheeling, go-with-the-flow type of mom. The fact is that structure is not just good for the kids; it is good for moms too.
Do you keep routines in place when you go on vacation?